My daughter and I love the water and spent this past Memorial Day holiday together at the pool. We both enjoy the “low” dive, but only she the “high” dive. I’m not afraid to admit that I’m a fish out of water when it comes to the high-dive (meaning twelve very long feet high).
As my daughter gets older (almost eleven) she’s a bit bolder in let’s say “encouraging” me. If you’re a parent you know the feeling of trying to encourage your kid to try something new. On the flip-side you’ve probably also experienced the role reversal situation where your kid wants you to try something new and you end up being the scaredy cat. Yep, that was me!
Now here I was nervously standing behind a bunch of kiddos lined up for that high-dive. All were a fraction of my age and size. My daughter plainly asked me, “What are you afraid of?” Funny how your kid can sometimes ask a simple question that strikes you in a profound way. What was I afraid of?
Somewhere down the road I had told myself that I’m too fearful to jump off that high-dive, and every time it’d come into play there went the old familiar song in my head, “Nope, not for me.”
Enter stage right – the parent guilt. What kind of example was I setting for my daughter? I’m typically all about trying new things (within reason: it has to be legal, good for me/others, no jumping out of airplanes, and if it requires a bungee cord chances are I’ll just watch, but other than that I’m game!). In that moment
I realized not only was I missing out on this moment with my daughter, but also humbly reminded how a pre-determined mindset of fear can keep us from opportunities for positive challenge, growth, and change!
Not to mention I couldn’t “dip my toe in” on this one. I was either all in or all out. Yes, I ended up walking the proverbial plank and jumped off that high-dive…and survived!
My point is this – what fear (especially unsubstantiated fear) is holding you back? Don’t allow it to sabotage you!
Is there a high-dive moment coming up or passing you by?
Take that leap of faith! Like me, you just might enjoy it!